As some might have found out, the networking in Xplane might be difficult to use.
I have used a simple plugin called NetFlight. This sets up communication between the computers in a simpler way.
You can also see if your pals are online via a map in a browser without opening Xplane.
Map
http://flyingwith.us/cgi-bin/atcmap.cgi
Main page
http://flyingwith.us/NetFlight/NetFlight.html
( menu is tiny under the donate button on the right)
thanks for the info:thumbsupsmileyanim: